| Are the ladies real? |
| Shifu Lem requires all their associates to conduct face to face interviews at the time a lady joins to determine her objectives and seriousness.
Also the lady is required to produce her ID card which is verified and filed along with her mobile number and address.
An important detail is the ladies marital status as well as family situation and these are also verified
If we and the Associate Agency feel at any point that the ladies motives are insincere then the lady's profile is immediately removed from the site. |
| Can I contact the ladies directly? |
| Of course you can. This is a matter between you and the lady. You can ask your lady for her details and then have direct contact with her if she agrees to this.
You should note that even though all the Chinese ladies have learnt English to some level in school it may have been some time since they practiced it and they maybe not feel comfortable in the initial stages of your relationship to have direct contact
We understand that you may wish to control the level of your expenditure and we have a number of packages that may suit your requirements. |
| What is Shifu Lem's relationship with the ladies |
| Apart from ensuring the authenticity of the ladies and profile posting Shifu Lem does not have any direct relationship with the ladies.
Shifu Lem will from time to time and on special request take on a lady on a matchmaking contract. If this is the case it would be clearly stated in the lady's profile |
| I have seen some Shifu Lem's ladies on other sites. |
| Some of Shifu Lem's affiliates work with other dating agencies and ladies profiles can appear in these sites.
Shifu Lem however will only post ladies profiles where there is a serious intention of marriage. |
| Do you have a matchmaking service for men? |
| Shifu Lem does have a matchmaking service and details of this can be found in the Services section. This is an exclusive service and there is comprehensive discussion and analysis before the commencement of a search and continuous review during a search.
There are additional charges involved and the level of interaction does not suit everybody. However if you feel that you would like to know more about the service and process please contact your personal consultant and they will be pleased to discuss your objectives and recommend a course of action |
| I am not interested in Marriage - can I use Shifu Lem's services? |
| Shifu Lem is not a judge of you actions but if your intention is not marriage then Shifu Lem would respectfully request you join an agency that caters directly for your preference. Our ladies have a specific interest in finding their life partner and it would be wrong to mislead them. |
| Shifu Lem is a business why should I trust you? |
| We would refer you to our philosophy and our history under the About Us section. We feel you can tell from the manner in which we conduct ourselves and the services we offer that we are providing a high quality premium service. |
| I am planning to visit China - can Shifu Lem assist? |
| Shifu Lem is not a travel agent however we do have relationships with travel agents and tour operators across China and we have these posted on our site.
If you need advisory, pick up or buddy services then please refer to our services section for more details
We do not advise on inbound visa arrangements
We can assist and advise on hotel arrangements in your destination city.
Please look out for Shifu Lem's destination guides to be published soon. |
| My relationship is getting serious can I discuss with Shifu Lem? |
| We will be delighted to assist where we can within the area of our expertise. Our buddys and counsellors will assist within the service offerings as this is where we have expertise and professionalism. |
| I have heard Chinese ladies are materialistic? |
| Ladies from China are like any other human beings - they look for security and love. In addition given the cultural background ladies from China are very traditional and family oriented.
There will be ladies who are more interested in material comforts and you will be able to decide if the lady is for you or not. |
| The divorce rate is high in China why should my relationship be different? |
| Yes, it is a sad fact with countries that have rapid economic development that they also seem to have an increasing divorce rate. There are many socio–economic explanations for this but it is our opinion that the ladies from China are looking for a loving relationship and if you approach the relationship with sincerity, openness and understanding then this investment you make with time and money will be repaid many times over in happiness and family. |
| The lady I am writing to has asked for money |
| Our advice is not to send any money to a lady you have not personally met and even if you have you should be circumspect about sending money.
We do not condone this type of behavior and if your experience this please immediately contact us and report the incident |
| I have heard that Chinese ladies do not like to discuss certain subjects? |
| If you are corresponding with a lady on Shifu Lem you are seriously contemplating marriage and we feel it is right that you as she can and should discuss any subject that is important to you as mature consenting individuals.
The lack of dialogue and interaction is not ideal for any relationship and the more one knows about the other the more likely that the relationship is likely to progress and be successful.
Flirting is important in the development of a relationship but cheap thrills are exactly as the name suggests
This said one should bear in mind this is not a fantasy but a serious marriage site and one should respect the other person's feelings and sensibilities
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| What is IMBRA? |
| This is a law called the "International Marriage Brokers Regulation Act" passes in 2005 under which US nationals have to provide their background details prior to seeking their fiance or spouse from marriage sites.
Shife Lem is obliged to translate this information into the ladies native language (Chinese in our case) so that the lady can review the gentleman's background and formally consent in a written or electronic form to the meeting or contact. |
| Is Shifu Lem IMBRA compliant? |
| Yes absolutely we are and as a business representing members from all over the globe we comply with the law of all the countries we are operational in. |
| Am I affected by IMBRA? |
| If you are a US Client then Shifu Lem will serve you in accordance with the requirements of the law.
If you are not a US client then you will not be affected by IMRBA. |
| How do I know if I am a US Client? |
| If you are a US national or if you are resident in the US and who makes a payment or incurs a debt to utilize the services of this site you will be considered a US client. |
| What is Translated Mail Service? |
There are various barriers to overcome when communicating to someone of a different culture, geographic location, and language. Add to the fact that many people in China have limited access to Internet or even a computer, sending a message to that special someone far away can prove challenging. When you engage a translation mail service your message will go through the following process:
1) The lady's translator notifies her of an incoming message
2) The message is translated by a professional translator to preserve the meaning of the message
3) The translator delivers the message to the lady either through the phone, by a physical letter or other means necessary as the situation permits in the shortest time possible.
We aim to provide this service at the lowest cost possible. |
| How Does Webcam Request Work? |
Being able to speak and see each other live on webcam can go a long way to understanding each other in an international courtship. However as our members are from different corners of the world, we have to cater for time zone differences, language barriers and work schedules. Upon receiving a webcam request Shifu Lem staff will do the following:
1) Contact and inform recipient lady of webcam request details
2) Confirm with the webcam requester details of the webcam meeting
3) Arrange for a translator to be available during the meeting.
4) Ensure webcam meeting is conducted in as confirmed by the requester.
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| What is the Shifulem VIP Pass? |
The Shifulem VIP Pass
Note: You must register as a member first to get the Shifulem VIP Pass!
Purchase a monthly pass to unlimited credits!! Write and receive unlimited letters. Note: Subject to review of your profile. You can fill out your profile before or immediately after application to increase your chances of approval!
Why the need to review?
The VIP pass is created at the suggestion of our lady members, who want to see higher interest from serious gentlemen. There are high costs associated
with letter translation and delivery so we have a process in place to ensure only the serious members are awarded the privilege to send and receive unlimited
letters.
What happens when my application is rejected?
In the worse case scenario your fee will be refunded and you will be notified. However in most cases we will simply ask you to complete or amend your profile.
The main purpose of this feature is to encourage high quality profiles and more choices for our lady members.
How do I stop the subscription?
Simply log into your Paypal account and stop subscription from there. We would appreciate if you notified us by email as well. Your credit account will be restored to normal status.
Can i use the credits for anything else?
VIP Pass credits can only be used for letter writing at the moment. This might change in the future, do check back!
How do i start?
If you are already logged in, simply head to the Pricing page to purchase using your paypal account. If you are a new member you must Register
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